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Dear Auntie Pearl: I have a problem I

hope you can help solve. I’m still in

love with my ex “Sam”. I have dated

since we broke up, it’s been 7 months.
But I haven’t been truly happy.

 

Sam and I are still friends and she’s
with someone else, but we still fool
around sometimes. I don’t know what
to do. She says she still cares about me
but I don’t know what to do. If she was
truly happy with her new flame then
why is she fooling around with me?
Hope you can help.

Looking For Anawcre in Virginia

Dear Virginia: Just what is it that
makes you think Sam isn’t “truly
happy”? Auntie can hear old Sam
laughing all the way to her next
conquest. As long as Sam has a
relationship and a mistress, Iet’s not fret
terribly much about her level of
satisfaction, shall we?

Auntie sees nothing but heartache for
you in this set up. You’ve gone from
being Sam’s lover to being the other
woman. Don’t think for a moment that
this will bring her back to you. Hang
onto a thread of hope this thin, and it
will unravel quicker than Sam can
betray trust.

While you’re looking for answers, take a
look around for your pride. Sam fools
around with you because she can. The
sooner you give Sam her walking
papers, the sooner you’ll be “truly
happy”. Don’t make Auntie come down
there and separate you two. It would not
be pretty.

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Dear Auntie Pearl: My lover Steven
and I are in a delicate situation. We’re
asking everyone for an opinion, and we
didn’t want to leave you out, Auntie
Pearl! Last year, we brought my elderly
mother home to live with us after she
broke her hip. We all agreed that it was
time for her to give up her apartment for
her own safety. We have always gotten
along wonderfully, but Steven and I are
not out to her.

We’ve all adjusted surprisingly well to
the new living arrangement. The
problem is that Steven and I have
stopped being affectionate in our house.
We are careful that she doesn’t see
Steven coming from or going to my
bedroom. In short, we can’t go on like

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this, but we don't know how to approach
the subject with my mother. She’s eighty
years old, Auntie Pearl, and she’s lived a
sheltered life.

She’s never said a harsh word about
anyone, but I’m sure this will come as a
shock. Steven and I are both divorced,
and in our fifties. I think she assumes that
we’re simply bachelors. We’d like your
opinion on a gentle approach for our
beloved “Ma”. Thanks, Auntie Pearl! --

Joe and Steven

Dear Joe and Steven: Auntie would be
surprised if Ma doesn’t know your story.
Eighty years is a long time to spend
without picking up a thing or two about
life.

The best approach to any facet of living
with Ma is to create an atmosphere in
which she’s comfortable talking to you.
Regularly check in with her about how
it’s going for her. If you make it easy for
Ma to approach you with her concerns,
you won’t need to explain yourself, and
Ma will be in charge of her own
information gathering.

Then go about your business .as usual.
Naturally, you’ll be respectful of Ma’s
modesty when it comes to extended
foreplay on the Barcalounger, but get
your daily affections and bedroom
arrangements back to normal. V

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