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Dear Auntie Pearl:

   

I can’t tell my friends this, so I hope
you can help me. I’m in love with a
wonderful woman who I’ll call “April”.
The part I can’t tell my friends is that
she’s bisexual. She told me when we
met, and she said not to tell anybody.
We’ve been together for almost a year.

At first I thought “so what”, because
she’s with me. But now we’re talking
about the future, and I’m not so sure
anymore. I never was with anybody
bisexual before. I’m afraid that some
guy will come along and she’ll leave me
for him. She says that’s not how it
works, but that doesn’t make me feel
any better. She says she wants a
monogamous relationship with me. But
how can somebody like April ever be
happy with anybody if she likes being
with the other sex too?

         
   
       
 
    
   
 

There must be other dykes who have
dealt with this, but I don’t know any. Is
my fear silly? If so, how do I get rid of
it? This is probably pretty basic stuff, but
I need to know! My future depends on
it! Thanks for being there.

Bi-Ignorant
Dear Bi—Ignorant:

What makes you think you’re such a
rotten catch that April would leave you
for anyone? Why is a man more
threatening than the millions of tempting
lesbians and bi women out there?

Waiter! Some self—esteem, for this niece!
April is bisexual; not promiscuous. Do
you think you’d have guaranteed fidelity
with another lesbian? Excuse your
Auntie’s bluntness, but HA! If you're
looking for a partner who won’t leave,
don’t just pass on bisexual women;
better skip the species. Forget the bars
and personals. Try the pound.

Soak your cold feet. April says she’s
ready to forsake all others. Are you?

*****

Dear Auntie Pearl:

I’m writing forhelp. I’m a gay male. I
fell in love with this guy. He’s so
beautiful. But I don’t know if he’s gay or
straight. But I can’t get him out of my
mind. Every time I see him, I feel like
I’m going to fall over. And I get all these
mixed signals from him. It scares me.

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How do I tell him I love him and keep
from falling apart? I tried writing him a
letter. But I can’t give it to him. He
knows I’m gay. Tell me I’m not heading
for a broken heart. I go to gay bars. I’ve
had affairs. I even got men’s phone
numbers and a man who loves me too.
So why do I love him so much? Why
can’t I say it to him? What should I do?

Falling Apart
Dear Falling Apart:

Your Auntie has always enjoyed the
sporting life, and yes, fishing can be great
fun. But darling, your pole is pointed
toward the wrong pond. Auntie knows this
species of handsome fish you describe. He
can play on your line endlessly, but try to
land him, and he’ll disappear.

Give it up. You may be confused about
your hero’s intentions, but he knows
exactly what he’s doing: getting pleasure
out of making you miserable. Auntie’s
nephews do not play this game. If he was
interested, you’d know it.

Lust is a grand thing, my dear, but don’t
confuse it with love. Once you’re ready to
take a chance on someone available, this
will pass. Until then, be grateful you had
the sense to keep your thoughts to
yourself. V

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