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Dear Auntie Pearl: We’re five dyke
friends, and we’d like your opinion. We
have a friend “Debby”. Her girlfriend
dumped her three years ago and she
can’t get over it. Every time any of us
gets together with her, it still ends with

Debby crying about it. She’s still really
bitter. She says she’s lonely all the time.

  

 

We all compared notes and we found out
that every one of us thought we were the
only ones who think Debby has a prob-
lem. A few of us tried to talk to Debby
about therapy, but she says that’s what
friends are for. She says it “scares” her
that we don’t understand. Auntie Pearl,
we do understand. All of us have been
through something like that, but we’ve
all worked hard to get over it. We know
that Debby is doing her best too, but it
seems like nobody should be hurting this
much for this long.

Do you agree with us? Is there some-
thing we haven’t tried? We hope you’ll
answer this letter, because we really do
care about our friend. —- The Gang

Dear Gang: For years, your Auntie
Pearl has told the ladies of her Old Maid
Card Club that she has the brightest,
most loyal nieces on the globe. Thank
you for proof.

Yes, a shrink will do nicely here. Auntie
loves Camille’s death scene as much as
the next person, but the curtain, grate-
fully, must fall. Your sad pal is mourning
for more than her ex. It’ll take a pro to
help her discover the inspiration for this
suffering lifestyle. Debby must learn to
let go of what she’s lost so she doesn’t
destroy what has: good friendships.

Dear Auntie Pearl: I’ve been with my
lover for seven years. He’s my first and
I’m his. We were curious about three-
somes, so we tried it and it was exciting.
We never do anything anally, and we try
to be careful. I tend to get more emo-
tionally involved than my lover and
would rather get to know a person first.
Problem? My lover can have sex and
leave it — I can’t. I would never leave my
lover, but I want at least a friendship.
How dangerous is this to our re-
lationship? AIDS? Are we risking our re-
lationship on excitement? -— A Nephew

Dear Nephew: Honey, if you have to
ask if this is a threat to your relationship,
then it is. Don’t fool yourself or your
Auntie: you’re falling for this new gent.
Try a friendship with him and you might
as well start custody hearings for your
pets and favorite appliances. Your lover
just wants to scratch his seven—year itch.
But you need love with your sex, so why
tempt fate? Until you find out why
you’re willing to put your relationship at
risk, nix the threesomes.

As for HIV and other sexually trans-
mitted diseases: with the exception of a
mutually—monogamous relationship in
which both partners test negative, any
sexual Contact has some level of risk.
But if you practice safer sex (use a latex
condom correctly every time, and don’t
let any blood or semen enter your body),
you lower your risk — no matter how
many people are involved.

Write Your Auntie Pearl at PO Box
4156 Burlington VT 05406

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