Out in the Mountains Write Your Auntie Pearl Dear Auntie Pearl, When I have my bloods, I want sex more than I do the rest of the month combined. My new lover says she’s grossed-out having sex during my pe- riod! I can’t believe a dyke feels this way about bloods! It’s making me feel gross about my own period! Period sex is the ultimate for me! What can I do? Bloody Frustrated Dear Bloody, Define ultimate. Does bloody love- making create a bond which you can- not achieve in non-period sex? If so, tell your sweetheart about it NOW. She needs to know what it means to you. But if what you’re telling Auntie is that your period brings you your ul- timate orgasm, give girlfriend th’ week off, and spoil your vibrator. Either way, continue to bleed proudly and loudly. Don’t let anything come be- tween you and your hot relationship with your cycle. Your Auntie Pearl Dear Auntie Pearl, I feel confused about gay relationships. I’ve had several lovers and short-time relationships. The majority of the men I’ve been with don’t know what they want in their lives. Once they’re in- volved with me, they take advantage of my honesty, sincerity and kind ways. I give 80% and they give 20%. I was married to a woman for 14 years before I came out in 1986. We had a wonderful relationship. Everything was 50-50; but I wanted a man in my life more than a heterosexual marriage. So it ended in divorce. What I look for in_a relationship is to be treated as an equal, cuddling, affection, honesty, sincerity. I have a variety of talents, sewing, knitting, crocheting, be- ing a handyman, cooking, and more. I’m a professional, intelligent, educated and offer a lot of real love. I’ve put up with a lot of bullshit from my past lovers. It seems a lot of gay men don’t want the simple things in life. They’re so hung-up with doing for themselves and to hell with how the oth- er person feels. I was recently in a re- lationship to be, but got out quickly. This person didn’t give me much affec- tion, among other things. He enjoyed that I love to sew. Especially when I made him two vests, a pair of shorts, and I copied a step-in outfit from Inter- national Male. Soon I’ll be moving to Norfolk...I was going to take him along. But he was not helpful and didn’t come with me to find an apartment, wasn't interested in look- ing for a job, or helping me pack... I’ve only known him for about 2 months. I caught on to his game and broke it off. I was interested in him but he blew it. I have a lot to offer anyone and to some extent give more than I get, for the right man...I’m not unattractive, fat or fem- inine, so what's the problem? ...The Richmond gay community sucks and the men are too stuck-up and think they’re lovely. I often think they don’t take well to Spanish men — I’m Puerto Rican. So I’ll leave it in your hands for advice. Sony I wrote so much, I had a lot on my mind. Thanks for listening. 5pani5h Man In Need of Real Love Dear Real Love, Auntie has just warned the Post Office to brace itself for the deluge of letters from gents who have been looking for a gem like you for years. You do indeed sound like a man with a lot to give. Stop giving it to people who don’t appreciate it.! As long as you’re willing to “give more than I get, for the right man", you’ll be with the wrong man. Stop fo- cusing on making a good impression, and start noticing what kind of guy you’re picking! The biggest short- coming of a loser boyfriend is HIS lov- er’s bad judgement. Where to Find OITM n Bennington Free Library Bennington College Bennington Library Record Rack Southern Vermont College Bratfleboro Brattleboro Food Coop Cahoots Conunon Ground Ever-yone's Books Burlington Burlington College Chassman & Bem Fletcher Free Library Onion River Co-op Partners in Recovery & Growth Peace & Justice Center- Pearls Planned Parenthood Cmtleton STEP Learning Center Misty Valley Books Chester Craftsbury Public Library Center Rutland Rutland Area Gay/Lesbian Connection East Barnet Innwood Manor East Harvdwick Greenhope Farm Fair Haven Fair Haven Free Library Hardwick Buffalo Mountain Coop Galaxy Books Lyndonville Jon's Automotive Project EXCEL, Lyndon State College Center Northshire Bookstore Middlebury Middlebury Natural Food Coop Montpdier Bear Pond Books Horn of the Moon Cafe Rivendell Books Woman Centered Morrkville Morristown Centennial Library Ncwfane Moore Free Library Northfleld Brown Public Library Norwich Social Alternatives for Gay Men Woman's Study Program the!’ Putney Library Randolph Kimball Public Library Rutland PFLAG Rutland Free Library St. Johmbury LUNA/NEVGALR c/o Umbrella Natural Provisions Regional Library St. Johnsbury Athenaeum Stowe Food for Thought - Waterbury Video Exchange White River Junction WRJ Books Upper Valley Coop Wllliamstown, MA Wild Oats Co-op (h'bySul'su"q)tir)rrn11ibdI'@l1ttl)yoIn'dt)t)r! 12