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VERMONT AREA
RESOURCES will be back
in October!! We are_in
the process of_ updating
our member list. Please
contact us if you know of
an address that is
incorrect or has changed.
Unless we can confirm
that these organizations
. are in existence at the
isted address, we will be dropping them from

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involvement with her can ultimately be
painful for jg. Further, Gert thinks that
cuddling in cozy quarters usually leads to
other activities, so don’t risk it. Alice thinks
that acknowledging mutual attraction in a
situation like this can be a good idea and
ease tension. Acknowledging does not equal
acting upon. By no means give up on
cuddling. Some people can enjoy simply
cuddling with someone they find attractive,
others can’t. We both think since this person
has told you about this other relationship,
you should try to respect it. As for the bed

thing, offer her a choice. Tell her you would!
like the company but you understand if she:
prefers a little more space. A good sense of
humor will help you get through the visit:
with all parties happy.

Dear Gertrude and Alice,
My ex-lover (who is also my best
friend) and a very good friend have

recently become lovers. I'm feeling really
torn between being happy for them and
really angry over the whole thing. They want
me to get together with them but I don’t
know. I’m feeling hurt and left out, like I’m
losing my best friend. Are friends less
important than lovers? That's what this feels
like. Does it have to be that'way? What
can I do? Should I do anything or just let
what’s happening happen and roll with the
punches, (which hurt a lot)?

A Friend Scorned in S. Burlington

Dear Scorned,

Isn’t it hard to be a nice guy? To some
people, friends g less important than
lovers, but not to everyone. Sometimes its
just a phase when the relationship is new,
(though of course it still hurts). What can
you do? Well there’s not a lot you can do.
You can explain how you feel. (Yea, it the
(yawn) Gert and Alice standard solution
-Talk!) We advise you avoid getting
together with both of them by yourself.
Threesomes can be so painful. Ask them
separately to do things with you. And when
you’re alone with one of them, comment on
how much you like it that your friends don’t
spend all their time talking about their love
lives. If you have to be with both of them,
bring a friend. Time may help. Don’t feel
pressured to accommodate them. Niceness
has it limits. Meanwhile, be careful about
introducing friends to each other.

 

To send your queer queries to Gertrude
and Alice, write c/o Out in the Mountains,
P.O. Box 438, Hinesburg, VT 05461.

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7. AIDS MEMORIAL PROJECT: Sun.,
Oct. 11. The Names Project is creating a
national AIDS Memorial composed of
thousands of individual 3' by 6’ fabric
panels, each inscribed with the name of
someone lost to AIDS. The panels will be
assembled into one massive expanse of
names and displayed across the Capital Mall.
Information; Vt. CARES PO Box 5248
Burlington, Vt. 05404. 863-2437.

8. NATIONAL LESBIAN/GAY RIGHTS
CONGRESS PLANNING MEETING:
Mon. Oct. 12. Plans will be initiated for a
1988 nationwide Congress of lesbians and
gay men, to show our diversity, to establish
our priorities and to devise strategies for
accomplishing them.

9. CIVIL DISOBEDIENCE FOR
LESBIAN AND GAY RIGHTS: Tuesday,
Oct. 13. A non-violent Civil Disobedience
Action at the Supreme Court to demand full
civil rights for lesbians and gay men; a
powerful statement of resistance and hope
for love and justice for all.

10. BICENTENNIAL PROTESTS IN

PHILADELPHIA: The Philadelphia Lesbian
& Gay Task Force is organizing protest
demonstrations for Sept. 17 (U.S.
Constitution’s 200th Anniversary) and Sept.
23 (tentative convening of the U.S. Supreme

Court). Join in protesting the hypocrisy of
the official Constitution Bicentennial
celebrations.

For more information; March on

Washington Committee, P.O. Box 7781,
Washington, D.C. 20044. (202) 783-1828.
Local contact; M.O.W. c/o VLGR P.O. Box
281, Hinesburg, Vt. 05461. (802) 864-3617.

Bisexuals Organize for March

Are you bisexual and wanting to go to
the October 11 March on Washington, but
afraid of feeling excluded? A National
Bisexual Contingent is currently being
organized by the East Coast Bisexual
Network. This is an opportunity to affirm
our bisexual pride nationally. If you are
interested in marching with us or want to
know more, send a note to Ruth Lande at
P.O. Box 5363, Burlington, VT. 05402.

Reach Out and Touch Jerry

reprinted from The Guide

Remember how that preacher of hate
Jerry Falwell had to have his toll-free
number disconnected because "the
bible-burning homosexuals" were harassing
his "ministry" and running up his phone
bill? Well, Dawn has discovered Jerry’s new
toll-free number -- 1-800-345-8095. Perhaps
readers would like to tell Mr. Falwell just
what they think of his pronouncement that
AIDS is God’s retribution for perverts.