ur Gidane

 Counselor For Life

Hey, Mr. Frank!

l’ve been with my girlfriend for about six
months and she is truly the best thing that
ever happened to me. We have a great
friendship and a, lot of the same interests.
I have been in a lot of bad relationships
so I know how good i have it this time.
There is one probtem, though. and i’m
afraid it may become a bigger deat the
longer we are together. g

I don’t have much of a sex drive.
I'm older than my girlfriend by about fli-
teen years and, while I’m no old lady, l
am old enough to know that my girlfriend
and t are in different places in our iife,
sexually. She says she’s fine with the
amount of sex we have and that she likes
being with me and cuddling. She tells me
that i am putting words in her mouth and
assuming she has the feelings I think she
should have and not understanding that
she is content. .

l think she should feel free to
have sex outside of our relationship. 2
would compietely support that because I
don't want her to begin to resent me for ,

not meeting her sexual needs. i wouldn’t 

want to know about her other sexuai
activities because that would be hard to
handle but i think that as long as she is
discreet that she should go out and do it.

What do you think’? I’m eager to
hear your thoughts.

Signed.
Marybeth

Mr. Les B. Frank offers guid

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Dear Marybeth,

You’re not only eager to hear my
thoughts. you seem eager to push your ~
girlfriend into contact with more eager
beavers. You extol» the virtues of your
relationship, then, tum around and practi-
cally call your lover a liar. if she says that
she‘s ha.0D_V and content the way things
are. why don‘? you believe her? Not every
younger person wants or needs to be
having nonstop sex. I suggest that you I

i stop putting words in her mouth. stop try?

ing to convince her to put her mouth on

other women and start enjoying your rela~ "

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developed a crush on my firstgay friend.
We met right beforet started school here.

and hung out and just kind of had fun.
.One.riight, in the midst of some mild sub-

stance abuse, he leanedover and told

’ me that smoking pot always makes him
‘ horny. Then. he told me he always

thought i was cute and that he had a
crush on me. lysorta freaked, because i
just thought of him in a friendly context
and wash’: terribly attracted to him.

' I spent this past summer in

. France and tett really out off from most of

my friends w him included, more or less.

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the day 1 got back, but my feelings for him V
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later. In the interim, g hoo ed u Wt
another guy. .

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’ repress my feelings for himfBut there are

multiple reasons t’m_ not realty -going to

the jugular on this issue. l~Tirst’,___he tends to '

get into really serious relation ' tha '
are oftendestined for l ‘
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him deeply and am attra 
afraid of gettinginto at big, long;term' la
tionship with him and it possibly ieadin
to him being the onlyguy l sleep with.

guess t want to play around a little ~« not a _V

lot. Fm not really destined for stutdorn

Sincerety, 
Moony, 

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apply and, to compficate matters, you’re
trapped in a prison of presumption.

In other words. it’s hell being
twenty because its hard to see things
clearly when your head is up your ass.

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