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OFFER WON'T BE EXTENDED AGAlNl Godspell C/0 TOAS - PO Box 1012 Burlington, VT 05402-1 012 RVMPX North Professionals jacleie Marina REALTOR 802-6553 377 X23 800-639-4-520 X23 e-mail jackie@together.nel website: www.jockiemorino.com ”OuI"’ and Servin our Community since 989 = ~< soul and body; yet, we all carry scars from those who are supposed to love us. What is family? A relationship based upon shared DNA? Perhaps. But then, who do you ask over for brunch? Aren’t they family too? In the Deaf community you find family united not by DNA, nor as you might suspect by status of hearing loss. The uniting factor is the support of Deaf values. That is why you find many hearing people fully Ideally, family nurtures your included among the hard of hear- - ing and Deaf, all sharing funda- mental values and goals. “No, you can’t. You can’t ever be part of our family, cuz you don’t suck dick.” Just so, in a less than diplomatic manner, a cherished friend addressed his view of the entry standard for GLBT family. Of course the les- bians will be disappointed to learn they aren’t family anymore! Just what is the GLBT family, and what are the terms of exclusion? Pain tends to create walls. Millennia of arrest, torture, humiliation, and execution well founded the walls of inclusion surrounding homosexuality. Yet, I live part time in Vermont where gays and lesbians can legally unite. The sticker on my car says “Support Civil Unions.” Does that make me family? Wouldn’t it be foolish to disenfranchise those who support you? So what are the rules of inclusion? Of course they vary widely, with extremists having the highest walls and progres- sives being most welcoming. May I suggest the obvious? Welcome anyone who loves you, who nurtures you, who befriends you, who supports and defends you. As a recovering homo- phobe, I’ve now been called a faggot. My friend Tom once asked me why I made sure to clarify that I am straight when people say I’m gay. Of course he was right, and the question with- in the question was: are you proud of your gay and lesbian family or not? OK, I am. As such I decided it’s OK if people think I am gay. No more denials of family. I’m not invited to holi- days with my biological family; my parents have not spoken to me in years. So, either I am alone at the holidays or I invite friends over. Gatherings of friends at the holidays are among my cherished memories and happiest times. Am I really missing anything by not being with blood relatives who are painful to share a room with? Are they really family? After all, who is nurturing my soul? The gay bnmches on Sunday morning make more hohts of a Recovering Homophobe sense to me now. Times such as those build family, not based- upon blood but rather love, and love is the stronger unifying characteristic of family. At birth, family is hand- ed to most. Later, family is what we create. I argue that if love is shared, that is family. I love my gay and lesbian friends, so what does that make me? tion, his hearing aid giving it away. “Deaf?” I signed, pos- ing the rhetorical question that serves to introduce strangers. Lighted eyes smiled from behind oval glasses. Tom had not signed in a long time, because he was the only Deaf person in town," and no one knew his language. Imet him in the magazine sec- I argue that if love is shared, that is family. I love my that only Paul — whose contradic- tions of Jesus are plethora — con- demned homosexuality. Was silence about homosexuality an oversight by Jesus, or rather an overtone? Jesus was not silent towards the ministers of the day, condemning them as rotting corpses; one can only wonder what he would say about modern preachers, especially those who have supplanted the words of Jesus for the vitriolic doctrines of Paul. I decided to side with Jesus, who taught us to feed the poor, visit the sick and needy, and do unto others in the way we would like to be treated. Perhaps marriage is best defined as the union of one man and one woman; I don’t know. Here in Vermont we have allowed homosexual couples to form a civil union‘. Why should- n’t they get to? After all, it’s not marriage — it’s a civil union. The reasons presented by the opposi- tion are weak and old. Few inquiring minds still believe homosexuality is a choice. I don’t remember choosing to be straight, it is just the way I turned out. The literature doesn’t sup- port the notion that gay parents gay and lesbian friends, so what does that make me? Standing in front of the newspa- pers we chatted for an hour, agreeing to meet again on Sunday. It was then that Tom shared the story of his life, one of isolation and overcoming. His left eye had been lost to glauco- ma as a child and now was made of glass; soon after a parent had died. Books became his friends. Now in his middle years Tom was finally happy, having met the love of his life online. They moved to Vermont recently, to be united in a civil ceremony. Why shouldn’t this gentle gay man, a lover of books, get to be happy? It took me some effort to get there. Raised a Baptist, I was taught that homosexuality was a sin. Years later, when I checked the Bible I found that Jesus was silent on the issue, and harm their children. So, what drives the anti- homosexual fervor? Ultimately, it is hatred of the different and love of status quo. We have ours, and we won’t share with those who are different than us. The same irrationale fosters racial preju- dice; sex, age, and gender dis- crimination; and religious intoler- ance. The fervor is also driven by Pauline dogma. It might be wise for Paulists to try to be more Christian. I bet if Jesus lived in Vermont, he wouldn’t have a “Take Back Vermont” sticker on his car. V Eric Nelson is an animal behav- iorist and college teacher who lives with three adopted dogs part-time in the Upper Valley