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publishing this boo/e. I was hauling my partner
out in front of total strangers. As I heard Bill say
these words, the image of Brian, which had
formed in my mind as I read Outbound, fit com-

-~ fortably with a
partner who has
been ‘hauled in
front of total
s t r a n g e r s . ’
Viewing the
Scottish life
through an indi-
vidual such as
Brian revealed
the strengths of a
different culture.
The uniqueness
of character that
he ‘ shows,
whether in his
ability to stay
focused as a
sleep-deprived sailing companion during a fre-
quently unscheduled shift in weather and sails, or
as a supportive partner, gently prodding Bill, out
of periods of gloom, reassured me as to Brian’s
ability to meet -the challenge of sharing a pub-
lished persona.

A friend _of mine recently noted “no matter
where I am traveling. . .1 am always home.” Three
men sailed across an ocean while each of them
continued journeying inside themselves.
Outbound reminds us of how lives are so inter-
twined. The other people in’Bill’s life moved
through personal passages as well.

“One of our first mail picle—ups included a note
from my mother——briefi chatty, wishing us well.
The last line startled me to tears. ‘I’m so glad you
met Brian in time to share this wonderful experi-
ence.’ Mild words, but, to me,— [it was] a bolt from
the blue. So she /anew who he was to me and
blessed us. They have chosen instead to show me,
in their muted Lutheran way, that they li/ee,
respect, and accept Brian, because our life togeth-
er ma/ees me happy. I used to assume that some
day we’d need to push on to a real face-ofi’, clear
the air,- but I’z2e come to feel that would be a self-
ish, possibly hurtful, indulgence on my part, and
yet...and words like these on a page therefore ta/ee
us into uncharted territory.

In spite of his family traveling through new ter-
ritories upon reading the final version, Bill
received further validation from his parents. They
had wisely agreed to read the book in its entirety
before discussing it with one another.

My Mom called saying “I loved your book, Bill.
Frankly I didn’t think you should be writing all
that but now I haveread all of it and it is great.”
My Dad, member
of church council
and past
U n i v e r s i t y
A d m i s s i o n s
Director, said, “I
certainly learned a
lot about you and
Brian. I support
you and applaud
your courageous-
ness.”

Recognition
from those who
love us can be
vital in our ability
to accept our-
selves and the lives we lead. Outbound intro-
duces a perspective of choices and responses.
The hopes we nurture within us grow as we
acknowledge their worth. Believing in our abili-
ties and moving within our own timing can foster
and strengthen our sense of self.

 

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