Bark Q’ the ;BanShee Everyday It has been 136 years since this earth beneath us has soaked with American blood spilled in a declared war. Some countries rise and fall in much shorter periods of time. Some countries have lived with war for so long that it has become a part of the everyday landscape, the every- day travel, the everyday shop- ping, the everyday conversa- tion, the everyday thread of life. Not here. V The words did not come easy when I heard Alex Ogonowski answer the phone. He is one of those people I knew long ago. I worked with Alex Ogonowski at the Everett, Mass terminal for Exxon. His is not a common name. John Ogonowski, 52 of Dracut Mass., was the pilot of Flight 11 originating in Boston. I, along with virtually every- one near a radio, or television knew what had happened. On a beautiful Fall day, war came to us. A A We have fought in the Middle. East before, but that wasn’t like this. We have been called upon before by allies and enemies alike; but that wasn’t like this. What could I possibly say to the Ogonowski family that hadn’t already been said by many, some famous, some not, some strangers, some not? Alex is a Yankee farmer in the true sense of the word. A gentle man of enduring nature that let very little in the work place bother him. Try maneu- vering a gasoline tanker through Boston safely for one 10 hour shift and keep smiling. When he picked up the phone, he barked “Hellol”. I identified myself to the voice. He repeated my name. I could almost see him moving his fingers over his chin as he dragged his memory for recol- lection of me. The voice became soft now, the gentleness overcame the irritation for yet another call. “Alex, I am so sorry for your family’s loss.” I had all I could do to say that little line, and I had lost nothing. We exchanged a few more words, I am sure he meant it when he said, “Thank you for calling.” I heard his breath, a terrible sadness had taken a toll on this retired truck driver. I hope Alex is okay. When I was a kid, you saw war in newsreels at the movies, run before the cartoons. Black by Paw Robinson and white, and always with a famous General or two. Dwight D. Eisenhower always looked the victor in his short drab jack- . et, stars and all. Korea never looked too appealing in those old films. That little conflict called Vietnam tore at the roots of all things American, and all things not. Many heated discussions turned into long time divided families. Dinner would be served up with body counts, followed by Archie Bunker for dessert. Many of our able bod- ied young men signed up, and many were drafted. Remember the lottery of birth dates? A sim- ple thing like that changed some lives in an instant, and for others, there was no cause for concern. Some young men went to college, did well and got deferments, some had no money for college. Others opted to pretend to be gay. I don’t have any idea just how successful that was or wasn’t. As a last resort, a lot of guys went to Canada. They still take grief about doing that so most rarely tell. A heavy price was paid by all involved in the Vietnam Conflict. We came to the aid of our allies in the Middle East when Saddam Hussein was making his presence felt and scaring the wits out of all his Arab neigh- bors. Course, we did want the oil, too. There _have been other visits, Somalia, Bosnia, and the list goes on. But those military cri- sis all have one thing in com- mon: none happened in these United States. I have watched the events unfold, TV’s have been on in every room, I don’t want to miss anything. I saw Palestinian kids danc- ing in the streets, overjoyed at the deaths of innocent people at work on a Tuesday. I saw fire and police men and women go back time and time again, even more determined after the col- lapses. I saw a wall of posters go up on a building. Men and women were telling their stories and falling victim before our very eyes to the overwhelming loss and sadness that has come lapping at our shores in an ordi- nary airplane in an extraordi- nary manner. The President said, “This is war.” His lower lip trembled, a pause in his sentence as he dug obvious pain Mr. Bush felt when he spoke about “the kids” and I was moved. I thought of my own daughter, I figured safe in Louisiana, in the same state with what terrorists saw as an enemy of Allah, and the Muslim faith, our president. My first call to anyone after the planes flew into the World Trade Centers was to my daughter. My cousin Joanne is married to a pilot, her house was next. Her husband Terri was seated right next to her. He knows all the men and women aboard the Boston flights. 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