By The Rev. lane Dwinell Recently, my partner and I, along with our children (ages 10 and 14), watched the History Channel’s series on Sex in the 20th Century. It was a well-done, several-hour pro- gram chronicling American’s attitudes about sex from the fashion changes between the Victorian and the Flapper Ages, to Margaret Sanger’s 60 year fight for birth control for all women, to the World War II backlash where women were put in their place in the sub- urbs. Next came the Free Love era of the 60s and 70s, followed by the AIDS epidemic of the 80s, and now on to a supposed “set- tling down” of everyone. It was interesting to watch this as a family. Our children commented as the show went on, asking questions and final- ly understanding how current events affect a wide range of things in our society. I was fas- cinated, though, when I real- ized that the question they kept asking until the excerpt on the Stonewall Riots was, “What about the gay people?” They recognized early on that something was missing. I certainly felt it, along with the show’s emphasis on sex being defined as heterosexual vaginal intercourse. The wide range of sexual expression, available to everyone, was not being dis- cussed in a, generally, very frank program. What’s sex got to do with spirituality, you may be ask- ing? Everything. To connect intimately with another person, or even yourself, in honesty, openness, and trust is one of the deepest spiritual experi- ences that there is. To be vul- nerable and present in the moment. To breathe and expe- rience the joy and wholeness of NORTHWESTERN MEDICAL CENTER Dr. Mara Vijups Dr. Erin Rhoades NMC RURAL HEALTH SERVICES Specializing in Family Practice Caring for patients of all ages 5 WA N T o N ' 868-2454 A L B U R G 797-4414 ENOSBURG 933-5831 The Spiritual Essence To connect intimately with another person, or even yourself, in honesty, openness, and trust is one of the deepest spiritual experiences that there is. the universe. That is sexuality. That is spirituality. Religious people of all faiths over the centuries have described their relationship with the Divine as a sexual one. Hildegard of Bingen, 12th century abbess, poet and healer wrote this: “Thru ani- mate eyes I divide the seasons of time. I am aware of what they are. I am aware of their potential. With my mouth I kiss my own chosen creation; I uniquely, lovingly, embrace every image I have made out of the earth’s clay. With a fiery spirit I transform it into a body to serve all the world.” Jalal al-din Rumi, 13th century’ Sufi mystic, wrote these words to his Beloved: “With your lips not here I kiss rubies to remember. When I can’t sip from you, I put my lip on the cup’s lip. Instead of reaching into your sky, I kneel and take handfuls of earth.” I find it refreshing to dip into the poems of these two spiritual beings when the Nancy Sheltras of the world equate loving relationships with “health hazards.” Sexual love is a grace, a gift Spirituality: “God not only loves us in and through our sexuality but, of course, delights in our human love- making. That love of beauty, union, and creativity is the sex- ual drive itself, and God’s gift. Sexuality is an aspect of our deeply human yearning for ful-. fillment and meaning, for God.” ‘ As we head in Pride month, let us BE proud —— of our bod- ies, their gifts, and our capacity to share them with one anoth- er. Let us celebrate fully, with body and soul. Our presence matters, even though it may be hard to bear the pain of misun- derstandings and false accusa- tions. As Sister Donnelly says, “God’s gift is not a divided sex and spirit, but a sexual spiritu- ality that can heal our hearts and, in the process, heal our world as well.” The Rev. Jane Dwinell serves the First Universalist Parish, a Unitarian Universalist congregation, in Derby Line, VT She lives with her partner; Sky, and their two children, Dana and Sayer; on the shores of beautiful Lake june 2001 O|Tl‘1 - 15 Chiop actic “r;;i;'i"m, 8 Feminist Therapy V Leah Wittenberg Licensed Mental Health Counselor Psychotherapy for individuals and couples 82 Church St., Burlington sliding fee scale (802)658-9590 ext.4 «o<:<>«a>oooaéoe>oa>oe>oe> Clifford D. Trott, Jr., Ph.D. 0 Licensed Clinical Psychologist — Doctorate 168 Battery Street- Burlington, Vermont 05401 , 802.862.0836 °<§‘>°<¥.‘>°°°°°<.«.?I>°°%>° Montpelier 229-5220 Burlington 860-6360 LYNN GOYETTE, MS, MA Lic. 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