32 ° OITH may 2001

   Mr. Les 3. Frank

‘ ‘  Your Guidance Counselor for Life

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Hey Mr. Frank,

I have been with the some girlfriend for almost five months. The
only time we really get along, though, is when we're in bed... The rest of
the time we fight about everything. Our latest major fight is about whether or
not to move in together. How do we know when we're ready forthat? T 

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    r'_ I'd say ”if” is the better question. You say that theoniy time‘fy9u;_ get.jalong is

when you're in bed. Take a moment to consider how much,‘._time,;_duringjyour
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lot of anger for a relatively little bit of what I assume is good se}i,l\rAl;v:‘i_magine that
you'd be fighting, during your intimate moments, too, if your rnouths‘weren’t too

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your glory, There are a lot of women out there who can be wonderfu’|_,lovers and who can also
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Since I came out 71 months ago, ‘I've been looking foriaboyfrien ism.‘-Q; my life‘ ,
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i ed|iOl’@|’T]OU l’]iClll’1 pridemed |Cl .OFg I mean they act like I need them to take care of me, but I don't need that. i; just want
i to find the one to share my thoughts, ideas, feelings, emotions,life and love with and
someone who will share the same with me. I do not want someone who is going to
base a relationship on sex. I think if someone loves someone for real it Won't matter
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- X How do I find the right guy without going through all these jerks? I'm sick and tired
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Your being disabled may be a problem for some people but it is their problem,
not yours. Don't aliow someone else’s fears or shallow assumptions make you feel
less deserving of romance. Be clear with could-be boyfriends about exactly what

 you want and need. if you aren't candid, other people can confuse their own pro-
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You're not alone in having to wade through asea of jerks to find the prize. l have

R  q'U   .,  V had more than my share of losers on my way to finding my soulmate and lover.

Many of my friends — men and women, gay and straight — have had similar treks
through the trash before discovering a quality catch. So, on this point, I wish you

patience. ’ -
P-°- 30* 1 7 Gary T3V101' Don't go looking for dates where others are mostly looking for sex. That would
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  You've already taken a big step in that direction. You've articulated exactly what
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