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I asked if a stimulating con- versation had been struck up while waiting to use the decline bench, or whether they’d gotten acquainted else- where in the health club’s sprawling facility. “We started in the shower and ended up in the handicap stall,” Adam explained. T Was Adam flush with the rush of love at first sight? Despite no follow-up phone call from his recent stallmate in the three days since their encounter, Adam still wasn’t ready to give up hope. “I gave him my number,” he assured me. “I wrote it on a piece of paper towel and gave it to him when we were both in the lock- er room.” Was Adam’s clear thinking clouded by a cacophony of sweet words showered on him in the heat of desire? Can pas- sion amidst the porcelain form the foundation for long-term bliss? . Adam has been hunting for a boyfriend for several years. He spends countless hours searching for Mr. Right at his gym, in bars, parks and at the baths. 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There’s no reason he shouldn’t satisfy his carnal appetite. What troubles me is that he swears he’s seeking love and companionship but keeps putting himself in situations and places where the other people are looking only for sex. The majority of guys cruising parks, lingering in steam rooms or prowling the halls of bathhouses are not in the market for a discussion about current events nor are they anxious to plan a commit- ment ceremony. Adam says he’s looking for someone to share his ride on the gay road of life. Wouldn’t it be helpful to focus on the dri- vers who want a long-term maintenance agreement rather than those whojust want a jiffy lube? In his heart, Adam under- stands that he’s more likely to find boyfriend candidates at social activities or through friends. The challenge is get- ting that message to resonate throughout his mind and body. 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